1. Never laugh at her height for in the last I don't know how many years she was being constantly reminded of it in a rather negative way, and each time somebody speaks of her height she feels as if she was some strange specimen, a misfit, an animal in the zoo.
2. Never laugh at her poor pronunciation and spelling mistakes. None of the languages that she uses is her own, and she did spend quite a lot of time to learn each of the languages that she speaks. Unlike you she did not go to an English medium school, she went to a very simple government school and she had to learn the languages on her own. But at least she tried. She is trying to learn how to read and write in another language right now, and there is nobody around who would help her with it.
3. Never tell her that she is from abroad. She happens to have been born in the same country of humanity as the rest of the people in this world.
4. Never tell her that she is just a Bharatanatyam dancer for you have no idea about other things that she has done in her life. She did not study at a fancy institute abroad, but the moment she decided that she actually wants to be a bit more than just a Bharatanatyam dancer she did her own studies in libraries, by meeting people, by watching people's work, working with people and by stealing knowledge in every possible way. She is a big thief when it comes to knowledge and she's always hungry for more.
5. Never tell her that she does nothing in life, for she actually does quite a lot and tries hard to make independent living.
6. Give her gifts. But not the material ones, she does not care about them. Give her gifts that are special and only for her. Give her words, she loves them. Give her moments to remember. Give her memories, and give her a gift of sharing your thoughts and fears. To give somebody your own vulnerability is the greatest gift of trust. Give her knowledge. Teach her everything you know, she always loves learning.
7. Give her time. If you don't have it try to make it for her. She is not greedy for time, but it is the gift of time that would make her feel important for you.
8. Accept her for the way she is. She does try hard to accept you for the way you are, no matter how complicated that is. Understanding lies somewhere in between.
9. Try to understand her moods. If she is angry then most probably she is angry with herself rather than with you. Her anger is often self destructive. She pretends to be a strong person with an air of self-importance, but in reality she is just a girl with very low self-esteem who is scared that you might reject her. Remember that if she gets angry it means that she does care. She does not like getting angry, and it always works when you try to make her laugh in such situations.
10. Talk to her. Anytime and about anything. It makes her feel important. She loves it when you share your thoughts, work, opinions, jokes, words, fears, happiness with her. She has not developed any telepathic abilities as yet.
11. Give her compliments if you think she is worth it. But never try to give her the false ones. She would never admit it in your face but she loves compliments, she did not hear many in her life.
12. Never shout at her nor try to raise your hand. It brings some scary memories into her head, they still hurt.
13. Be frank with her. If you care do tell her so, if you don't also tell her - she deserves to know, and she is big enough to deal with it.
14. Try to ask about her life and work. She would love to discuss her ideas with you, even though it frightens her that you might find her silly and uninteresting. And believe me, if she ever asks you for help, or your opinion it does mean a lot.
15. Love her cat, for he is the most important companion of hers.
16. Be patient, she does know that she is not easy to deal with.
17. Be gentle, for she is a real girl with real emotions and not some kind of machine.
18. Don't lie. The hardest truh is always better than the sweetest of lies.
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2. Never laugh at her poor pronunciation and spelling mistakes. None of the languages that she uses is her own, and she did spend quite a lot of time to learn each of the languages that she speaks. Unlike you she did not go to an English medium school, she went to a very simple government school and she had to learn the languages on her own. But at least she tried. She is trying to learn how to read and write in another language right now, and there is nobody around who would help her with it.
3. Never tell her that she is from abroad. She happens to have been born in the same country of humanity as the rest of the people in this world.
4. Never tell her that she is just a Bharatanatyam dancer for you have no idea about other things that she has done in her life. She did not study at a fancy institute abroad, but the moment she decided that she actually wants to be a bit more than just a Bharatanatyam dancer she did her own studies in libraries, by meeting people, by watching people's work, working with people and by stealing knowledge in every possible way. She is a big thief when it comes to knowledge and she's always hungry for more.
5. Never tell her that she does nothing in life, for she actually does quite a lot and tries hard to make independent living.
6. Give her gifts. But not the material ones, she does not care about them. Give her gifts that are special and only for her. Give her words, she loves them. Give her moments to remember. Give her memories, and give her a gift of sharing your thoughts and fears. To give somebody your own vulnerability is the greatest gift of trust. Give her knowledge. Teach her everything you know, she always loves learning.
7. Give her time. If you don't have it try to make it for her. She is not greedy for time, but it is the gift of time that would make her feel important for you.
8. Accept her for the way she is. She does try hard to accept you for the way you are, no matter how complicated that is. Understanding lies somewhere in between.
9. Try to understand her moods. If she is angry then most probably she is angry with herself rather than with you. Her anger is often self destructive. She pretends to be a strong person with an air of self-importance, but in reality she is just a girl with very low self-esteem who is scared that you might reject her. Remember that if she gets angry it means that she does care. She does not like getting angry, and it always works when you try to make her laugh in such situations.
10. Talk to her. Anytime and about anything. It makes her feel important. She loves it when you share your thoughts, work, opinions, jokes, words, fears, happiness with her. She has not developed any telepathic abilities as yet.
11. Give her compliments if you think she is worth it. But never try to give her the false ones. She would never admit it in your face but she loves compliments, she did not hear many in her life.
12. Never shout at her nor try to raise your hand. It brings some scary memories into her head, they still hurt.
13. Be frank with her. If you care do tell her so, if you don't also tell her - she deserves to know, and she is big enough to deal with it.
14. Try to ask about her life and work. She would love to discuss her ideas with you, even though it frightens her that you might find her silly and uninteresting. And believe me, if she ever asks you for help, or your opinion it does mean a lot.
15. Love her cat, for he is the most important companion of hers.
16. Be patient, she does know that she is not easy to deal with.
17. Be gentle, for she is a real girl with real emotions and not some kind of machine.
18. Don't lie. The hardest truh is always better than the sweetest of lies.
Please follow the instructions given above if you wish to obtain the unlimited warranty period.
